we have to always remember context is everything. in the same way that natives and africans were brutalized, the feminine was stripped violently bare by a particular culture that we now find ourselves the descendants of. women were seen as property of their husbands (husband means master or manager of the house, manager of home or cattle, similar to husbandry). women were raped and abused and silenced. we were told not to dance. not to acknowledge nature and magic. not to indulge in our sensuality. we were to be good girls and women and wives while the women our own husbands went to indulge their sensual pleasures with were labelled whores. the bad girls. we were taught and often forced to hide our messiness, our abuse, our pain, our desires and our emotions away. to be clean and quiet and forgiving and calm. a woman with emotions and magic was labelled hysterical (from the root womb!) or worse yet a witch and either locked away or literally burned in a town center.
let that sink in for a moment. women with emotions and magic were imprisoned in dark scary tombs called asylums or literally burned to death in front of all who knew and loved her. witches.
witches. bitches. crazy. insane. hysterical. passionate. whore. slut. bad. disgusting. dirty. foul. ugly. loud. emotional. chaos. rejected. locked up. burned. beaten. abused. raped. silenced.
beaten. abused. raped. silenced. quiet. accepted. cherished. loved. adored. pretty. calm. clean. good. virgin. under control. moderate. mild. happy. sane. rational. giver. wife. mother. saint.
the violent repression of the feminine is real. and we still feel it daily. we feel it every time a man is set free after brutally raping a woman. we feel it when we doubt ourselves and don't trust our own knowing. we feel it when a partner says we're acting/talking crazy. we feel it when our hearts cry out for justice against the violence we see all around us and yet our voices make no sound. we feel it as our roles are confined to narrower and narrower strips of reality and we start to feel crazy ourselves because our power and energy is too big for those strips, especially as we see the world of our children being destroyed before our very eyes and like always we are encouraged, in fact we encourage each other, to continue to look away from the truth, as we have always done. as we have always been rewarded for. as we have always survived.
but now we have choice. we are beginning to see again. our whole selves are so much deeper and richer and more powerful than all we've accepted as "good girls," "good wives," and "good mothers." we can be all those things. and they are valuable. but we also can wail, moan, hiss, bite, claw, create, and bear babies.. and we can speak and yell and scream as needed, if what we love is threatened or if something new needs to be born. and if we are told to be silent. and we can stand in the way of or forceably stop evil if we need to. if what we love is threatened. and it is all threatened right now. we all know this with our bodies that know. all we love and cherish is under attack. and no amount of playing nice and quiet will save it. we can be good mothers and fierce also. in fact we may need to be at this point. because the old paradigm is destroying life as we know it. soon silence will no longer mean survival. our children's futures are on the line.
i am grateful for the fierce feminine. i am grateful she is waking up in all of us.
across the globe i see it. in women and in men i see it. in indigenous communities i see it. in people speaking up for and standing for the lands and waters i see it. in white and black and gay and straight. in people saying enough is enough i see it. i see it all over. in ceremony and meditation and feeling the body and speaking from our hearts and prayer and unity i see it. i see it in myself and in my daughter and in my son. the feminine in boys and men cherishes and loves and respects what is powerful in women, listens to her wisdom and learns from it. it praises women in their magic and complexity.
i believe that the true freedom of all enslaved and oppressed peoples earth wide as well as the survival of the earth and her species is connected to the freedom of the feminine. as long as women are oppressed and silenced the violent oppression of marginalized peoples and the ravage of the earth will continue. and vice versa. they are inextricably bound. women are naturally inclined to protect all children everywhere and the earth itself precisely because we have those affinities and powerful feelers. some natives say it is not until the hearts of the women are on the ground that a people is defeated. right now humanity itself is facing it's own destruction. well ladies, it's time we get real intimate with these fierce, beautiful, strong, wise, emotional hearts of ours. we are going to need them.